It was December 23, 2023, and I was in a dark place. Sitting on the bed in the guest room, I realized I hadn’t consciously felt joy in a few days. I’m not talking about the happiness of seeing my family or the love I feel for them, but the joy that feels like the…
One of the hardest things about living with an invisible condition is needing to decide multiple times a day, every day again, how you’ll respond to the question: “How are you?” You want to be positive and also honest. You want to be open while knowing not everyone will be equally understanding. You want to…
Do you see resting as just another thing to check off on your to-do list? Is it even on your to-do list? While there seems to be a growing awareness of the importance of rest for leading a sustainable fulfilling life, few, if any, goal-setting models present rest as something we consciously need to work…
This article, as the others on this site, is a work in progress. It’ll evolve as my thinking on the subject does, as I read more, talk to more people, and experiment more. It’s been hip for a while to go against the hustle culture, but usually, the people who advocate that are people who…
It’s 2020, full pandemic. I’m part of an entrepreneurs community and a mindset coach who is also a member offers a free four-week program to help us find our Why. A bunch of us sign up. The calls ask us to be open, vulnerable. I don’t remember what the question was, but at one point,…
A connection that never turned into a friendship. A crush that never turned into a date. Love that was never answered. There is something extra painful about losing something that never was when you did your best to turn it into being. More than grieving a relationship that has ended (any kind of relationship), grieving…
Doing the work. For many people, it involves daring to open up again. To be vulnerable. To connect. To let others in. Apparently, people put up walls when they get hurt. Some slowly, brick by brick, until the wall is so high they can’t see who’s in front of them anymore, and if that person…
For many years, I didn’t take off my shoes when simply going for a stroll on the beach. You know, one of those days when you don’t go sunbathing but you want to be close to the ocean. “I’ll get sand in my socks,” I would think. “I’ll have to take off my shoes, wipe…
When people disappear from our lives, it’s considered normal to grieve. Perhaps not for as long as we need, and perhaps not as intensely as we sometimes do, but we accept that with the loss of a person – whatever shape that loss takes – comes grief. Less normalized or talked about is the grief…