It’s 2020, full pandemic. I’m part of an entrepreneurs community and a mindset coach who is also a member offers a free four-week program to help us find our Why. A bunch of us sign up. The calls ask us to be open, vulnerable. I don’t remember what the question was, but at one point,…
As hard as it is to implement, I like how Portuguese makes the difference between ser (“to be”) and estar (“to find oneself in a state of”). It allows us to differentiate between how we define ourselves (“I am a joyful person.”) and that which we believe to be only temporary (“I am experiencing sadness.”)….
A connection that never turned into a friendship. A crush that never turned into a date. Love that was never answered. There is something extra painful about losing something that never was when you did your best to turn it into being. More than grieving a relationship that has ended (any kind of relationship), grieving…
Doing the work. For many people, it involves daring to open up again. To be vulnerable. To connect. To let others in. Apparently, people put up walls when they get hurt. Some slowly, brick by brick, until the wall is so high they can’t see who’s in front of them anymore, and if that person…
For many years, I didn’t take off my shoes when simply going for a stroll on the beach. You know, one of those days when you don’t go sunbathing but you want to be close to the ocean. “I’ll get sand in my socks,” I would think. “I’ll have to take off my shoes, wipe…
When people disappear from our lives, it’s considered normal to grieve. Perhaps not for as long as we need, and perhaps not as intensely as we sometimes do, but we accept that with the loss of a person – whatever shape that loss takes – comes grief. Less normalized or talked about is the grief…